Why You Need to Forgive Yourself and The Difference it Makes

“I know it sounds strange, but sometimes the key to breakthrough is forgiving yourself,” I say giving my friend a hug. “We can accept God’s forgiveness but sometimes forgiving ourselves can be a whole other matter, because we think we should have known better, and sometimes we have to say it out loud, declaring it, because our words have huge power.”

Within a matter of days I’m sharing the same thought at Bible Study, and a story to go with it. My husband’s dad had injured himself by telling the Japanese tourists he was guiding to tackle him, thinking he was jokingly telling them to tackle the other tour guide.  (Don’t mess around in a foreign language!)  Tackle him they did, and from then on he was unable to lift his arm above shoulder height.
One day he attended a prayer meeting where the speaker asked for all those who’d come forward for prayer and never been healed, to come forward.  Bold and daring step; however this speaker had received a key from God. Forgiveness, whether it was forgiving a friend, a parent or even a horse in one case, people were healed from many things, including Stephen’s dad as he forgave himself for the silly mistake, and he could lift his arm  again.

I’ve seen this key work over and over in my time doing prayer ministry with people. Many doctors agree that our hospitals are full because we hold unforgiveness against others, but sometimes we simply keep beating ourselves up over our mistakes because we haven’t chosen to forgive ourselves.
Mark 11:25
“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”

I’ve heard people say that forgiving oneself isn’t Biblical, but I asked my father in law, the one and the same, from whom this testimony came, a Greek and Hebrew word studier extraordinaire to go digging for me, and sure enough, he came back with a huge selection of gems for me, but primarily this one:

Romans 15:7New International Version (NIV)

Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.

Romans 15:7  Extra study thoughts: “One another” is G240 in Strong’s Lexicon and this word means the other person and yourself – one another – each other, mutual, one another, (the other), (them-selves, your-selves together). In the same way Christ accepted us we are told to accept our lives as He sees us and give that gift of forgiveness and acceptance to others.

Do you have a testimony of how forgiveness has changed your life?  Do you find it easier to forgive yourself for hurting yourself or others or to forgive others for hurt they’ve done to you?

Sometimes choosing to speak out loud that “I forgive myself for such and such, or forgive (name person) for such and such” breaks the hold of that situation on us.   Even if we don’t feel like forgiving them, the act of speaking it out in obedience to God sets us on a path to forgiveness and brings breakthrough.

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About Lizzy Ainsworth

My name is Lizzy Ainsworth, an author in QLD Australia who blogs at Lizzy Ainsworth Books - Resources to Nourish the Spirit, Soul and Body.

7 thoughts on “Why You Need to Forgive Yourself and The Difference it Makes

  1. I’ve always found it very easy to forgive others (thank God for that!) but extremely difficult to forgive myself. I often walk around with guilt but that’s not living like I am washed in the blood of the lamb so working on accepting Christ’s work in my life!

    1. I don’t know if you’ve ever heard the story of Anne White who started Victorious Ministry Through Christ, an inner healing ministry based on forgiveness, but her son was really struggling from asthma, in fact dying, she’d given all the medication and prayed desperately for a key to his healing and God told her to forgive her mother-in-law. She did and he had no more asthma so she really researched what the Bible had to say and built a ministry around it. I’ve been involved for over ten years and seen so much freedom as people choose to forgive others.

  2. Wow! This is so good I don’t even know where to start! This is all so true. Thank you for writing this, I had to deal with forgiving myself in my previous marriage, it was hard to do but it gave me freedom and gave me full forgiveness towards my ex-husband when I did. I remember crying to the Lord asking Him why I still felt emptiness even though I forgave him for all that had happened, the Lord spoke to me so clearly, “because you need to ask for His forgiveness.” It was overwhelming to hear but when I did ask for his forgiveness, I became free and delivered from myself. This is truly inspiring to dig deep within ourselves.

    1. Thank you. There are so many keys in forgiveness, and just listening to what God says on any particular situation. No peace inside ourselves is always a good indication that we need to ask Him where our unfinished business is.

  3. I find it harder to forgive myself because I have high standards set for myself … thankyou for reminding me of this Lizzy! What a powerful testimony your father in law has 🙂

  4. I am learning little by little that forgiveness is something given and not always earned. It does make me feel better when I can just let something go than hold onto it. Forgiving myself does not come so easy, but I am getting there.

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